Navigating a divorce can inspire a range of emotions. It may start to feel like trying to function during a hurricane. Nevertheless, maintaining effective communication – even as one’s emotions may rage – is essential for reaching a resolution that meets the needs of both parties.
If you’re divorcing, by adopting a strategic approach to communication, you can navigate this challenging period more easily. Ensuring communication doesn’t come to a grinding halt can keep the divorce process moving forward.
Remain calm and focused
It’s easy to let emotions dictate your communication, but taking a breath and approaching discussions with a level head is critical. Focus on the issues at hand rather than past grievances. It may help to prepare what you want to say beforehand and to listen actively to the other person’s perspective. Remember, the goal here is to find solutions that are in your best interests but still work for your ex.
Negotiate carefully
Negotiation requires a delicate balance between standing firm on your priorities and being open to compromise. Approach negotiations with an open mind and consider creative solutions. Start by identifying your non-negotiables and areas where you’re willing to give a little. This will give you an idea of where to start negotiations and how much you’re willing to give and take.
Handle disputes appropriately
Disputes are almost inevitable during a divorce, but how you handle them can set the tone for the entire process. When disagreements arise, resist the urge to escalate the situation. Instead, take a step back and assess whether the issue is worth fighting over or if there’s room for compromise.
Remember, how you handle disputes affects the outcome of your divorce and can also impact your relationship moving forward. If your divorce involves children, this can be an especially important motivation. Strive for resolutions that prioritize dignity and respect, laying the groundwork for a more amicable relationship after the divorce.
Ultimately, you have to do what you feel is best during the divorce process. Having a legal representative who can help you evaluate the options and move forward with your chosen decisions may reduce your stress so you can think clearly about the choices you need to make and about communicating effectively about those realities.