Divorce is rarely problem-free. However, many couples make it much more harrowing than necessary.
Understanding what some people do wrong can help you avoid their mistakes. Let’s look at some of the issues you should seek to avoid.
Fighting over every last thing
Do you remember fights in the school playground when a bunch of so-called friends stood around egging you on? Looking back, wouldn’t you rather have had a friend who pulled you away and said the issue was not worth fighting over or that taking a different approach could achieve a better outcome.
Divorce is similar. Sometimes you do need to stand fast, but other times it’s better to look for a compromise. However difficult your spouse has been, taking a more conciliatory approach may encourage them to do the same.
Allowing the kids to see you argue
You are not trying to lie to the kids and pretend you still get along. However, you want to minimize what they must witness. Seeing you mistreat each other or have a big fight is not good for children. They need to know that you, as parents, will still be able to make things work despite not agreeing on everything.
Thinking you can handle it alone
It’s not just legal help you’ll need when divorcing. You will also need practical and emotional support. This could range from a neighbor walking the dog when you have to be out early to a divorce meeting to your boss reducing your workload to allow you to focus on getting your divorce agreements. A therapist can also help.
The sooner you find out what divorce will involve, the sooner you can start planning to make the process easier to get through for your family. Having experienced legal guidance will help.